It's not my fault!

Why is it that when a man cheats on a woman so many people accuse the woman of somehow being at fault? It is possible for a man to have had an incredible sex life with his wife (who isn't overweight) and have found in his wife someone he could trust, talk to, and rely on emotionally. It is possible for a man to come home to a clean house and dinner on the table (that actually tastes good). It is possible for a man to have clean clothes, clean kids, a clean car, and a wife that doesn't overspend. It is possible for a man to come home to a wife and children who love him and express that love daily. It is possible for a man to have ALL these things and STILL cheat on his wife!!!! Why? Because it is NOT the wife's fault! It's not something she has done that has somehow caused the man to cheat! If a man has cheated, it is because he has made a decision to do so, irrespective of what his home life is like. Yet people still try to blame the woman! I don't understand this. They don't do this to other addicts. You don't find someone saying to the wife of an alcoholic, "Well, honey, if you just weren't so overweight then maybe he wouldn't have had to go drinking every night." They don't say to a drug addict's spouse, "Well, if you had only provided dinner for him the second he walked in the door every night then he wouldn't have turned to drugs. Did you ever think of that?" And what about husbands who are cheated on? People don't say anything to the husband's of wive's who've cheated. You don't hear someone saying to a man, "Well, you have gained weight since the two of you married. Do you really blame her?" No, that would be preposterous! Why blame the man? What man would give a woman a reason to cheat? That was obviously HER choice, HER decision, and HER bad. So why is it so different when a man cheats on his wife? Why are people so quick to place blame on the wife? Why are they so quick to start pointing out every flaw the wife might have had in their entire marriage as being justification for what the husband has done? Some even do so when the HUSBAND himself is accepting full blame for his actions! This just makes no sense to me! Don't get me wrong here. I am NOT saying that my life is the perfect picture I painted above. Far from it. My point is simply that it doesn't matter how perfect one's life might (or might not) be, that still gives them NO justification for cheating...and doesn't allow the blame to be placed on anyone other than the one who made the decision to cheat. I might be angry at my children, but the decision to yell at them in my anger is MINE...not theirs. The same goes here. The responsibility for the decision to cheat lies with the person who did the cheating...NOT with the person whom they betrayed. To say anything else to a woman who has been betrayed is beyond words. There is no excuse. You are furthur damaging someone who is already going through what is probably one of the worst pains of their life